The journal of open connections
Writing a dating profile: a clear introduction in your own voice
Use a real detail, a current intention and an opening for conversation without publishing your whole life.
Mad2Moi is the adult dating app from the same owner as this journal.
Say what you want to explore
Start with your current intention: friendship, dating, a committed relationship or time to get to know someone. You can be clear without promising a future you have not chosen. If you are writing as a couple, explain who is speaking and leave room for each person's own expectations and decisions.
Replace a list of qualities with a real detail
“Curious and easy-going” leaves a reader to guess what that looks like. A fictional example is: “I like trying a new recipe on Sundays and discussing films after the credits.” Choose your own truthful details. They provide a subject to pick up without turning your introduction into a list of demands.
Choose a tone you can continue using
Read the text aloud. If you would not say it in a conversation, simplify it. Humour is optional, and a short introduction can be enough. A writing assistant may help with spelling, but invented hobbies or a borrowed personality create expectations you may not want to carry into a real exchange.
Express a boundary as your choice
A fictional example is: “I prefer to talk here first and decide together whether to meet.” This describes a preference without attacking people who use an app differently. A clear boundary is more useful than a long warning about every disappointing experience you have had. You can change your mind later.
Keep some information for later
A public introduction does not need your full address, employer, exact schedule or private history. Consider what you want a stranger to know before deciding what to publish. You can describe a general area or interest without exposing a routine. The French resources below provide additional privacy guidance.
Leave a natural opening for a first message
End with a question that genuinely interests you, or an activity you might enjoy discussing. For example: “Which exhibition would you recommend to someone new to the city?” Adapt this fictional line to your own interests. A reader is free to reply or not; the introduction creates an invitation, not an obligation.
Sources and resources
CNIL : protéger son intimité sur les applications de rencontres (FR)
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